“The man I met, and fell in love with, and whom I continue to love, is the man you all knew through his work. He is a kind man, a generous man, a funny man, and a wonderful husband, father and friend. He is the man you thought you knew.”
|Dr. and Mrs. Cosby with Dr. Johnetta Cole (The Cosby's donated 20 million to Spelman when she was President)|
They are pictured here with Dr. Johnetta Cole, once President of Spelman College (Spelman has announced that it has suspended its endowed professorship with Cosby) and now the Director of the Smithsonian Institution's National Museum of Art. Cole hosted a conversation exhibition of art pieces, many of which were donated by the Cosby's recently. The statement posted on the museum's website regarding the event is here: (http://africa.si.edu/):
"We are aware of the controversy surrounding Bill Cosby, who, along with his wife Camille, owns many of the works in the Conversations exhibition. Exhibiting this important collection does not imply any position on the serious allegations that have been made against Mr. Cosby. The exhibition is centrally about the artworks and the artists who created them."
Mrs. Cosby is by his side, honoring the notion of "for better or for worse" which is a key aspect of the vows taken between a man and a woman upon marriage. Dr. Cosby described her support yesterday of him as follows: (see full article here: http://www.vanityfair.com/vf-hollywood/2014/12/bill-cosby-breaks-silence-on-rape-allegations):
"Love and the strength of womanhood. Let me say it again, love and the strength of womanhood. And, you could reverse it, the strength of womanhood and love."
Now, something has happened that we are struggling to understand. Statements, accusations, the media and beyond are causing opinions to be formed, without all of the facts emerging in an objective venue. I genuinely believe that a person is innocent until PROVEN guilty. That is the basis of our justice system (although this matter is not in the court system at this time). As Dr. and Mrs. Cosby begin to slowly raise their voices, perhaps, given that they have given so much to the uplifting of of Black people in America (although many have disagreed with some of Dr. Cosby's candid comments about Black people) through his television and comedic movie ventures, their giving millions to a historically Black college, their cultivation and collection of Black art and so much more, we can be patient and let all of the facts emerge before joining in on the character assassination of this Black man, which is happening so publicly, as his wife stands firmly by his side. This does not mean that the women accusers should not be heard, or that they should be lambasted too, for telling their stories. Their voices have raised the conversation of women and their experiences with men in power to a new level. However, rushing to judgement, on either side, is irrational, without hearing/knowing the facts, of both sides and without having been there to witness the events firsthand. Many chide Dr. Bill Cosby for not speaking up sooner. But is the media really the correct venue for him to do so? It would seem that doing so needs to take place within the context of rules, professional expertise and all that is necessary to lay the groundwork for objectivity on both sides without opinions, biases and everything else that has emerged enabling a "reality TV" atmosphere about something that is so serious. No one wants any woman, or any person in general, to be violated. Compassion and sympathy abounds when we hear of it, but impartiality must be present within the context of hearing, feeling and listening to all sides.
Although some may have animosity towards Dr. Cosby because they believe the many women who have shared their stories about him, particularly Beverly Johnson, America's first Black Supermodel who stepped forward recently, and others, perhaps equal weight can be given to the voice of Mrs. Cosby, who surely knows her husband better than any other woman, as they have been married for a very long time (since 1964), raised children together and made it to stand amongst us as Black, elders. Some Black women have stepped forward to ask questions, such as Whoopi Goldberg and Jill Scott. I too have questions and I am writing here to express compassion for Mrs. Cosby, a Black woman, naturalista, sister, and her family during what has to be difficult times for all of them. For that reason, Mrs. Cosby, a naturalista to the core, N.I.C.E. sees you, hears you and knows that there is a connection in consciousness, with a clear indication, per your naturally coiffed hair, that you know that Natural Is Cool Enough. The perspective of N.I.C.E. is that this speaks volumes about your level of consciousness. Stay strong, faithful and prayerful. Everything in the dark, eventually comes to light. At the very least, as we watch you during these trying times, the lesson of the true meaning of "for better or for worse" in a marriage sustained in longevity, strength, love and womanhood, is emerging.